A female or wife led marriage would eliminate all these complaints. We ended into this form of marriage 2 years ago and it’s developed into a more fulfilling relationship for the both of us.
My wife becomes more comfortable taking the lead as I become more comfortable following as she guide the relationship in many areas. I do the housework, I do the laundry, I do a lot of th cooking. It’s doesn’t mean that she does not participate in the household chores but it’s balanced in her favor. In the end we both do more than is expected because we love and support each other.

I know I am in the minority. It’s what makes our marriage work.