For me with my first wife it was in this order; Finance, Sex, how we raised our daughter, our religious views, and me spending too much time in the garage (I restored three cars over our 23-year marriage).

I was always supportive of her work; I am handy around the house and organized. As they say it takes two and realize I had faults. I wanted to make the marriage work but, in the end, she was no longer in love and yet still very jealous of any woman that showed interest in me even after we had split up. My friends called her toxic however it took me a long time to realize they were right.

Counseling went nowhere and she used it to try to embarrass me. My view and I could be wrong that eighty percent of the marriages are over by the time they go to couples counseling and will not survive.

I was just happy to make it out on the other end.