I divorced in 2014. My wife was abusive, verbally, emotionally and physically. I once went to a female hair stylist who was a friends girlfriend. When my wife asked who I went to, she slapped me across the face.

I lasted 25 years and would have lasted a lot longer. I had almost gotten use to having sex twice a year and hoping maybe it would also happen on my birthday. My wife made over 100k year but I got use to hearing I can’t afford to buy you a present and take you to dinner. You have to pick one. I could have cared less about a present. I was just hoping she could be nice.

When she said she wanted a divorce I attempted to be logical. Cover the bases. Protect the 401K I had worked so hard for.

I ended up buying her a brand new house. She stayed in mine till hers was built. She said as she walked out the door , “sorry I couldn’t love you like you loved me.”

However as I look back it was a blessing. Instead of wallowing in self pity which you are doing you need to find a reason to get out of bed. Walking in the park is free. Go for walks, hike, exercise, just get moving. Look past your depression and actually look for the beautiful things around you, even if it’s the moon at night.

You wear you mood like a chain around your neck and no one wants to be around a person that is depressing.

You need to find a reason to wake up every day and look forward to the next.

Would I recommend divorce? Not in most cases, but you are divorced, now find a way to work through it.