I was engaged four times. The first time was to a woman while we were in college that ended when she had an affair. Cheating on me and then the reality that she was pregnant with someone else’s child was devastating but took almost a year to get past her and move forward. I am so happy that I did not marry her. So the realization is that often times relationship’s don’t work out for a reason and staying in them would only cause more pain and suffering in the long run.