Marta, this is a great article.

My first marriage was toxic and abusive. I went to get my haircut from a friend's girlfriend. we all cycled together. When my wife found out, she hauled me off and slapped me across my face. this was not the first or the last night she had hit me. There were times we would go to a restaurant and my wife would start crying in the middle of dinner.

She told me if I didn’t get a vasectomy that she would never have sex with me again. We divorced after 23 years. She walked out for the last time and said, "I don’t believe marriages should last a lifetime."

Now, I have remarried to a beautiful woman who loves and cares for me. She is also the leader in our household. We love and respect each other and we are best friends. I could never go into this type of relationship with my ex-wife. WE both have a clear understanding of each other’s roles. We discuss it often and believe that is one of the wonderful aspect of an FLR, we each support each other fully.