Nice article and good observation.

In my first marriage after we had our daughter we would go months without sex. It’s not that I did not want it, I really did. My sex drive was as high as ever, my wife on the other hand was bitter and she used sex as a carrot or treat to get me to do something extra or motivation to get me to leave an event when she got bored.

I put a huge effort into attempting to please her in various ways and then just gave up due to her toxic personality. What is worse is that others saw it. It became a joke in our circle of friends.

At year 21 she said she didn’t love me and wanted a divorce. It was painful to go through and she did what she could to inflict as much pain from the process as possible.

Now on the other side of life. Eight years into a new marriage with a woman that truly loves and appreciates me. We enjoy sex often and more so just enjoy being with each other. Our circle friends see it as well. Many who where in the same circle when I was married to my first wife. All they hear is the love and respect we have for each other. The comments mostly from the wives is how happy I look compared to when I was in my first marriage and how they didn’t like my first wife.